We all know how hot and spicy the romance is when you first get in a relationship. We remember the long talks curled up in each other’s arms, the passion in and out of the bedroom, and how you both were on the other’s mind all the time. But sooner or later the fire between you may die down, and you become comfortable with your partner.
Eventually the sexy nighties that you hide under your underwear turn into long sleeved pajamas, the massage oil is forgot about in the medicine cabinet, and you and your partner may start to have a somewhat boring routine. In other words, the newness wears off. He no longer opens the door for you, and she no longer surprises you with candles and lingerie.
So here you are wondering what the secret is to making your love life last. In all the research and advice we collected from happy couples, we came up with 10 Secrets To Making Your Love Life Last.
- Make Dates
Relationships are not easy, and it doesn’t help that in today’s world everyone is busy. Work, kids, family, and anything else you may have on your plate can become overwhelming. Dating is important, not just at the beginning of a relationship, but throughout the entire relationship. Make it a priority to schedule a date with your partner. Exchange schedules so at least once a week, you have special time with them on your calendar.
- Get Out Of The House
Boredom comes from doing the same thing over and over again, and eventually that movie night on the couch you use to love becomes less special. Go site seeing, get a mutual hobby, plan activities, see a show, and add some laughter your relationship. Even as adults we love the thrill of life, so we can’t let the same routine get us down. Make it a point to travel together, even if to an amusement park for the day. They aren’t just for kids. Take a hike that leads to a waterfall, or anything else that you both have an interest in. If you don’t have a mutual hobby, switch it up.
- Redecorate the Bedroom
Women aren’t the only ones who love interior design, or a new look in the house. Men may not admit it, but seeing something new is always refreshing. We aren’t saying paint the walls every six months, or do something that will freak the kids out. A new comforter and sheets, and a change in the wall scenery can rejuvenate your bed life.
- Find Out What You Both Want
Fantasies are something everyone has, but some people may not even realize it. Figuring out what you both want is key to having a better love life. Ask each other questions, and don’t be afraid to do it. You both are committed to each other and are spending life together, so you need to ask these questions.
- Try Something New
Trying something new in the bedroom is a pretty clear suggestion for achieving a better love life, but it's one that many have issues with. We get used to playing it safe, and are afraid to make those changes. Why? Because we are human. But, you love each other, so you should be comfortable with trying something new. Even if it’s something small, it can make a big difference and bring back the passion.
- Don’t Ignore Problems
Some people hold things in and some wear their feelings on their sleeves. This secret is quite simple. Ignoring problems, even small ones, can turn into larger issues. Nip them in the bud, and be open with your partner. Compromise on a solution that will work for both of you, and this will help you have a happier relationship and a happier love life.
- Don’t Worry About What Everyone Else Is Doing
One question we seen a lot is “How often should we be …” The answer is you can’t compare another couple’s relationship to your own. Why? Because they are not you. Their relationship is completely different from you. What you need to do is ask each other “How much do you want?” Focus on your own relationship, and this will of course make your life better.
- It’s The Little Things That Count
This is one of the most important secrets to making your love life last. In the beginning, think of all the little things he/she did that made you fall in love. Surprising you with dinner, opening the car door, sending flowers just because, randomly sending sweet text messages and/or picture quotes, walking into the bathroom with candles and body scrub set up, ect. Partners love little surprises, even they don’t admit it. This not only tells them you love them, but it shows them you love them. It also makes them want you that much more.
- Respect Your Partner
Respect seems to be something that some of us take for granted, and we don’t mean to. Treating your sweetheart with respect is likely to get you the same in return. Regularly remind your sweetheart how much they mean to you, and they will send you love in return. When you say, “I love you,” pause for a moment to really mean it. Don’t be afraid to express your feelings, because it will mean so much to them. Also, remember they are your partner, and you should have their back. You have to be able to count on each other in all parts of life.
- Alone Time Is Essential
It is good for a woman’s self-esteem to take care of herself, and it’s important for a man to fulfill their need for independence. Some people get into a relationship and think that every minute should be spent together, and when it’s not they think something is wrong. It’s not wrong. Women need alone time to relax, pamper herself, and even have girls’ nights with close friends. Men need time with their friends, and time for getting a round of racket ball or a game of hoops in. Plus, the best thing about alone time is that it reminds you how much you miss the other and love having them in your life.